More wind on marriage...
THE GOOD WIFE'S GUIDE - from Housekeeping Monthly, 13 May 1955
--- with NOTES from the blog owner
*Have dinner ready. Plan ahead, even the night before, to have a delicious meal ready, on time, for his return. This is a way of letting him know that you have been thinking about him and are concerned about his needs. Most men are hungry when they come home and the prospect of a good meal (especially his favorite dish) is part of the warm welcome needed.
NOTE: So far, not such a bad idea if one's hubby is under stress. I actually do this fairly often.
*Prepare yourself. Take 15 minutes to rest so you'll be refreshed when he arrives. Touch up your make-up, put a ribbon in your hair and be fresh-looking. He has just been with a lot of work-weary people.
NOTE: Now it starting to sound like he needs a dog instead of a wife.
*Be a little gay and a little more interesting for him. His boring day may need a lift and one of your duties is to provide it.
NOTE: Definitely, he needs a dog. Too much codependency here. What happened to seeking our fulfillment from God?
*Clear away the clutter. Make one last trip through the main part of the house just before your husband arrives.
NOTE: Dan's chair has nothing in it, the TV screen is clean, and his socks from the night before are no longer under said chair. That's usually as far as I get. Do I feel guilty? No. Since I rarely sit in a chair in front of the TV without my socks, I think that I am being fairly accommodating to those who do.
*Gather up schoolbooks, toys, paper, etc. and then run a dustcloth over the tables.
NOTE: There are no tables in front of the TV. Therefore,this is a time-waster. My spell check doesn't even recognize the word dustcloth, if that is a clue to the importance of dusting.
*Over the cooler months of the year, you should prepare a light fire for him to unwind by. You husband will feel he has reached a haven of rest and order, and it will give you a lift, too. After all, caring for his comfort will provide you with an immense satisfaction.
NOTE: Are you seeing a pattern here? The marriage has just replaced God as our source of joy and satisfaction. Wait 'til you read the last ones!
*Prepare the children. Take a few minutes to wash their hands and faces (if they are small), comb their hair, and, if necessary, change their clothes.They are little treasures and he would like to see them playing the part.Minimize all noise. At the time of his arrival, eliminate all noise of the washer, dryer or vacuum. Try to encourage the children to be quiet.
NOTE: Honoring Dad is truly important, but is this what is being
taught here?
*Be happy to see him.
NOTE: What??? I would not be happy to see the guy who wrote this article. He would feel the same about me, I'm sure.
*Greet him with a warm smile and show sincerity in your desire to please him.
NOTE: Sure. After reading this, I can certainly smile when my
husband comes home, can't you? I'm loving him more just by re-reading this.
*Listen to him. You may have a dozen important things to tell him, but the moment of his arrival is not the time. Let him talk first - remember, his topics of conversation are more important than yours.
NOTE: OK, this started out very good, but it lost me with the third sentence. Since my husband usually has no topic of conversation when he arrives, does that mean that everything that I have to say is more important than anything else that happens?
*Make the evening his. Never complain if he comes home late or goes out to
dinner, or other places of entertainment without you. Instead, try to understand his world of strain and pressure and his very real need to be at home and relax.
NOTE: This is irrelevant to our home. If he needs to be at home so badly, why is he going out?
*Your goal: Try to make sure your home is a place of peace, order, and tranquility where your husband can renew himself in body and spirit.
NOTE: Insofar as it depends upon us, we are to be peacekeepers. I'm
on board with that, but again, this article is replacing God with the marriage.
*Don't greet him with complaints and problems.
NOTE: OK, so this is a wise move. Think of Esther.
*Don't complain if he's late home for dinner or even if he stays our all night. Count this as minor to what he might have gone through all day.
NOTE:WHO WROTE THIS! Did Hugh Heffner used to write for Housekeeping
Monthly???
*Make him comfortable. Have him lean back in a comfortable chair or have him lie down in the bedroom. Have a cool or warm drink ready for him.
NOTE: I have never had to suggest this to my husband. He thinks of it all by himself, except for the drink. By the way, what happens to that drink if
he doesn't come home all night? Just wondering...
*Arrange his pillow and offer to take off his clothes. Speak in a low, soothing and a pleasant voice.
NOTE: Has anyone out there had to help her husband get his clothes off when she has spoken to him in a low, soothing voice?
*Don't ask him questions about his actions or question his judgment or integrity. Remember, he is master of the house and as such will always exercise his will with fairness and truthfulness. You have no right to question him.
NOTE: Now he thinks HE's God. No need to question
him, his actions prove his integrity. Is this the master you want to serve?
* A good wife always knows her place.
NOTE: Yeah. Third house from the corner with a chain link fence. I've yet to miss it on my way home. That settles it - I'm a good wife!!
--- with NOTES from the blog owner
*Have dinner ready. Plan ahead, even the night before, to have a delicious meal ready, on time, for his return. This is a way of letting him know that you have been thinking about him and are concerned about his needs. Most men are hungry when they come home and the prospect of a good meal (especially his favorite dish) is part of the warm welcome needed.
NOTE: So far, not such a bad idea if one's hubby is under stress. I actually do this fairly often.
*Prepare yourself. Take 15 minutes to rest so you'll be refreshed when he arrives. Touch up your make-up, put a ribbon in your hair and be fresh-looking. He has just been with a lot of work-weary people.
NOTE: Now it starting to sound like he needs a dog instead of a wife.
*Be a little gay and a little more interesting for him. His boring day may need a lift and one of your duties is to provide it.
NOTE: Definitely, he needs a dog. Too much codependency here. What happened to seeking our fulfillment from God?
*Clear away the clutter. Make one last trip through the main part of the house just before your husband arrives.
NOTE: Dan's chair has nothing in it, the TV screen is clean, and his socks from the night before are no longer under said chair. That's usually as far as I get. Do I feel guilty? No. Since I rarely sit in a chair in front of the TV without my socks, I think that I am being fairly accommodating to those who do.
*Gather up schoolbooks, toys, paper, etc. and then run a dustcloth over the tables.
NOTE: There are no tables in front of the TV. Therefore,this is a time-waster. My spell check doesn't even recognize the word dustcloth, if that is a clue to the importance of dusting.
*Over the cooler months of the year, you should prepare a light fire for him to unwind by. You husband will feel he has reached a haven of rest and order, and it will give you a lift, too. After all, caring for his comfort will provide you with an immense satisfaction.
NOTE: Are you seeing a pattern here? The marriage has just replaced God as our source of joy and satisfaction. Wait 'til you read the last ones!
*Prepare the children. Take a few minutes to wash their hands and faces (if they are small), comb their hair, and, if necessary, change their clothes.They are little treasures and he would like to see them playing the part.Minimize all noise. At the time of his arrival, eliminate all noise of the washer, dryer or vacuum. Try to encourage the children to be quiet.
NOTE: Honoring Dad is truly important, but is this what is being
taught here?
*Be happy to see him.
NOTE: What??? I would not be happy to see the guy who wrote this article. He would feel the same about me, I'm sure.
*Greet him with a warm smile and show sincerity in your desire to please him.
NOTE: Sure. After reading this, I can certainly smile when my
husband comes home, can't you? I'm loving him more just by re-reading this.
*Listen to him. You may have a dozen important things to tell him, but the moment of his arrival is not the time. Let him talk first - remember, his topics of conversation are more important than yours.
NOTE: OK, this started out very good, but it lost me with the third sentence. Since my husband usually has no topic of conversation when he arrives, does that mean that everything that I have to say is more important than anything else that happens?
*Make the evening his. Never complain if he comes home late or goes out to
dinner, or other places of entertainment without you. Instead, try to understand his world of strain and pressure and his very real need to be at home and relax.
NOTE: This is irrelevant to our home. If he needs to be at home so badly, why is he going out?
*Your goal: Try to make sure your home is a place of peace, order, and tranquility where your husband can renew himself in body and spirit.
NOTE: Insofar as it depends upon us, we are to be peacekeepers. I'm
on board with that, but again, this article is replacing God with the marriage.
*Don't greet him with complaints and problems.
NOTE: OK, so this is a wise move. Think of Esther.
*Don't complain if he's late home for dinner or even if he stays our all night. Count this as minor to what he might have gone through all day.
NOTE:WHO WROTE THIS! Did Hugh Heffner used to write for Housekeeping
Monthly???
*Make him comfortable. Have him lean back in a comfortable chair or have him lie down in the bedroom. Have a cool or warm drink ready for him.
NOTE: I have never had to suggest this to my husband. He thinks of it all by himself, except for the drink. By the way, what happens to that drink if
he doesn't come home all night? Just wondering...
*Arrange his pillow and offer to take off his clothes. Speak in a low, soothing and a pleasant voice.
NOTE: Has anyone out there had to help her husband get his clothes off when she has spoken to him in a low, soothing voice?
*Don't ask him questions about his actions or question his judgment or integrity. Remember, he is master of the house and as such will always exercise his will with fairness and truthfulness. You have no right to question him.
NOTE: Now he thinks HE's God. No need to question
him, his actions prove his integrity. Is this the master you want to serve?
* A good wife always knows her place.
NOTE: Yeah. Third house from the corner with a chain link fence. I've yet to miss it on my way home. That settles it - I'm a good wife!!
posted by Fencemender | 12:11 PM
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You know, if we'd all married the same guy, maybe there would be one message to fix all our marriages and make us good wives. As it is, my husband needs different things from me, and I'm soooo glad!
Elaine
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